Comments on: Learn to say "No" with a Cooling-off Period http://www.scramblejam.com/blog/2008/01/learn-to-say-no-with-a-cooling-off-period/ Live a Different Way Thu, 10 Sep 2009 14:54:48 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1 By: Lee http://www.scramblejam.com/blog/2008/01/learn-to-say-no-with-a-cooling-off-period/comment-page-1/#comment-8 Lee Mon, 21 Jan 2008 11:16:15 +0000 http://blog.scramblejam.com/2008/01/learn-to-say-no-with-a-cooling-off-period/#comment-8 Hi Guilherme, The simplicity of this technique is that all it is giving you is a simple space between stimulus (the request) and your response (whether Yes or No). Stephen Covey teaches that all our power and capacity for right action lies in that space - and this post outlines a great way to make that space a little bit bigger ;) Hi Guilherme,

The simplicity of this technique is that all it is giving you is a simple space between stimulus (the request) and your response (whether Yes or No).

Stephen Covey teaches that all our power and capacity for right action lies in that space – and this post outlines a great way to make that space a little bit bigger ;)

]]> By: Guilherme Zühlke O'Connor http://www.scramblejam.com/blog/2008/01/learn-to-say-no-with-a-cooling-off-period/comment-page-1/#comment-7 Guilherme Zühlke O'Connor Mon, 21 Jan 2008 10:49:37 +0000 http://blog.scramblejam.com/2008/01/learn-to-say-no-with-a-cooling-off-period/#comment-7 Great post, Lee. Saying no is indeed a hard thing, specially for oneself. We expect so much of ourselves, but sometimes these expectations can't really be fulfilled. Time to think about it might be just the tool to get the glimpse of reality we need to realize that. Great post, Lee. Saying no is indeed a hard thing, specially for oneself.

We expect so much of ourselves, but sometimes these expectations can’t really be fulfilled. Time to think about it might be just the tool to get the glimpse of reality we need to realize that.

]]> By: Lee http://www.scramblejam.com/blog/2008/01/learn-to-say-no-with-a-cooling-off-period/comment-page-1/#comment-6 Lee Fri, 18 Jan 2008 10:00:50 +0000 http://blog.scramblejam.com/2008/01/learn-to-say-no-with-a-cooling-off-period/#comment-6 Thanks for commenting Anne, you're officially the first for this blog! I still do struggle with saying No (especially to my girlfriend), but I have found this technique works. The biggest impact, which I didn't cover adequately in the post, is the long-term effect it has on trust within relationships - If you are able to manage expectations and effectively deliver on those expectations then trust, responsibility and synergy is built between the involved parties - all of which increase the creative scope and potential of that interdependent relationship. It really is worth trying... Thanks for commenting Anne, you’re officially the first for this blog!

I still do struggle with saying No (especially to my girlfriend), but I have found this technique works. The biggest impact, which I didn’t cover adequately in the post, is the long-term effect it has on trust within relationships – If you are able to manage expectations and effectively deliver on those expectations then trust, responsibility and synergy is built between the involved parties – all of which increase the creative scope and potential of that interdependent relationship.

It really is worth trying…

]]> By: Anne http://www.scramblejam.com/blog/2008/01/learn-to-say-no-with-a-cooling-off-period/comment-page-1/#comment-5 Anne Thu, 17 Jan 2008 21:28:31 +0000 http://blog.scramblejam.com/2008/01/learn-to-say-no-with-a-cooling-off-period/#comment-5 This is one of the hardest things for me to do. I am bowed down with guilt if I do, and spend hours worrying about having to do it at all. Great post! This is one of the hardest things for me to do. I am bowed down with guilt if I do, and spend hours worrying about having to do it at all. Great post!

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